Birthday Wishes

“A birthday is just another day where you go to work and people give you love. Age is just a state of mind, and you are as old as you think you are. You have to count your blessings and be happy. ~ Abhishek Bachchan

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Birthdays are often a happy family tradition. My daughter’s favorite song-and-action activity is singing “Happy Birthday”, clapping along and blowing candles to an imaginary cake. I have always celebrated mine in a new destination or in a new restaurant, so that the novelty may create a more interesting memory.

As we grow older, the parties become simpler and the guests fewer. This year, I chose to celebrate in one whole week, giving time for my family and for myself. After all, even the material gifts seem to matter less—all I really wish for is good health, career and financial security, a more positive outlook, love and happiness. Oh, and some genuine peace and quiet! Now, we can’t buy those things in a store, can we?

I received more than my fair share of greetings in social media and SMS. And though I’m floored by the birthday wishes, it’s in the company of family and true friends with whom I am able to really celebrate and be thankful for another year of life. Real relationships are hard to find and even harder to maintain, and to have those is already a birthday gift in itself.

So to Working Moms celebrating their birthdays… take your well-deserved day off, spend time with family, pursue what makes you happy and be grateful for the blessings. Cheers!

Traditions and Resolutions

 

“At the heart of every Family Tradition is a meaningful experience.”

 


Family holidays are usually beset with so many activities: reunions, parties, gift giving, and gatherings. I’ve always looked forward to this time of the year, because it’s an opportunity to spend time with family and see old friends. Though physicially tiring, the spirit is lifted celebrating Christmas and NY traditions with loved ones.

I’ve always been a traditionalist. They give so much meaning to the occasion, and there’s something to look forward to every December. I believe that the family is bonded more over traditions, and it’s a legacy I wish to pass on to my children and their children’s children. I’m glad to have shared these with Milo, Sofie, and our extended families this year:

  • Grocery shopping for the holidays at S&R
  • Mall decor and Christmas tree viewing at Power Plant Rockwell
  • Starbucks sticker collection for the planner
  • Series Binging (The Crown)
  • Simbang Gabi at CTK
  • Bibingka and Puto Bumbong
  • Noche Buena and Mass
  • Christmas Spa and Dinner date with the hubby
  • A Christmas wedding (Joe and Jady)
  • Games and Christmas Reunions
  • Media Noche, with coins and trumpets (no fireworks this year)

The New Year brings a fresh start, which is why I also look forward to creating my resolutions list. (Listing is another favorite hobby.) This Year, I resolve to:

  • Be more positive, less angry and frustrated.
  • Be on time for meetings and deadlines.
  • Be healthier. At least cut down on chips and rice (easier said than done!)
  • Be more presentable.
  • Catch up with friends more often.
  • Focus more on my family’s needs.
  • Save and invest more.

Hope this New Year brings more blessings and growth opportunities! Happy 2017 to all Working Moms and your families!

Tales of a First-Time Flower Girl

“It will all work out in the end. You must keep faith in yourself, and leave the rest to God.” ~ Leon Brown 

For days, months, weeks, we have been trying to train and psych Sofie for her first role as flower girl. Each episode ended in tears, frustration and drama. The little girl did not want to walk nor wear her dress. Stress!

D-day came. We were readying ourselves for another fit of tears, but this time we poured drops of holy water on her bath and on her head. We prayed hard. Lo and behold, she put on her dress without a fuss! And though she did not walk down the aisle (I had to carry her), there was no drama the whole day. She even posed for the pictorials (thank you Allie for keeping her steady!). Thank you Joe and Jady for being patient with us. 

Praise God for our miracle! Prayers are truly powerful, if you just keep the faith 🙏🏻 #BastaIkawLord

When Boredom Strikes

“I want to feel something, as a person. I don’t want to be bored.” ~ Pina Bausch

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I write this in the middle of our sales rally, when my presentation is already finished and the year is almost wrapped up. It’s been a rollercoaster ride this year, and I’m glad to have the time to reflect on everything that has happened, both in the homefront and in the office.

Actually, I just seem to have free time to clear my mind in between listening to speakers.

Actually, I’m just bored.

They say mothers rarely suffer from bouts of boredom, in between juggling roles and responsibilities in the workplace, in the family and in the other roles she plays in the community. But when this happens, though rarely, it’s a gem of a blessing. It’s a moment granted to be more introspective, to clear your thoughts and let go of any worries.

The rise of social media has given millennials the chance to create their own worlds when bored. When there’s nothing to do, they can just turn on their smartphones and let their fingers explore news feeds, tweets, and snaps. For mothers, (and I myself am guilty of this), I get updated on parenting articles or catch up with my friends through Viber, or just read on the latest gossip online. When there’s no internet access, Candy Crush is also a ready option. Not too productive, but it does help to pass the time.

We have arrived in an era where being bored is not an option. You must always look busy, or do something “worthwhile”. It’s a sin to be “bored”, when there’s so much to do, so little time!  Gone are the days when boredom is actually welcomed, because it is closely related to self-control abilities, and tendencies for addiction and binge-eating. Says James Danckert in a recent study: The more self-control you have, the less likely you are to be bored.The urgency to combat boredom is now higher than ever.

When our children tell us, “we’re bored”, we stress with the need to fill the time gap with technological devices or structured activities. But we fail to give them something much more important: unstructured time, or the opportunity to imagine new worlds and expand their creative juices. This skill is vital to their development, as it teaches them to become more resourceful and mature in problem solving later on in life. Self-control is also developed during children’s downtime, as they learn to be more patient and wait for their turn.

Sometimes, it helps to learn also from children’s boredom. We can use the time not to feel anxious in doing “nothing”, but rather be grateful for the time to relax, keep calm and clear our thoughts.

Sometimes, we can even get around to writing a blog.

 

 

 

7 Habits of Highly Productive Moms

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“Once you become a parent, it always seems like there is “so much to do, so little time.”

This goes for all moms — whether you stay at home fulltime, work outside the home fulltime or part-time, or work at home. Suddenly, “busy” cannot even begin to describe how your day is.”

Sharing an article online, on productivity tips for busy and productive moms.

Full article here.

On Bended Knees

“In a single moment we can understand we are not just facing a knee pain, or our discouragement and our wishing the sitting would end, but that right in the moment of seeing that knee pain, we’re able to explore the teachings of the Buddha. What does it mean to have a painful experience? What does it mean to hate it, and to fear it?” ~ Sharon Salzberg

One day, while dressing for work, I took a (mis)step back and popped my knee out. I fell down while my ligaments thankfully popped them backed in. The surprise overcame the pain and numbness. After all, it has been a while since my knees popped out… fourteen years, to be exact.

They rushed me to the ER to do the standard x-ray tests, before recommending me to physical therapy. Since it’s my third time (officially), the surgery option’s in the table. No guarantees that it won’t happen again post-op, so I decided to go the conventional route— strengthen my muscles through rehab and wearing knee protective gear most, if not all the time. 


I’ve learned to accept my condition, now classified as congenital. But I worry for my work and most especially, my daughter. How do I carry her now that I cannot bear any more weight? How do I pursue my field work? How do I bear another child if pregnancy weight will put a strain on my knees again?

So many questions. For now, I’m still doing my leg raises and squats and stationary bike. Preventive measures calls for serious weight loss, especially in my upper body. Small steps, but hopefully this will give my the strength and confidence back to do all that I need to do, for my career and my family.