Yaya Sisterhood

“When you’re babysitting a kid, all you’re seeing is a version of them, a small dosage.” ~ J. B. Smoove

One of the reasons why I was not able to update this blog was because I became yaya-less for a month. Yaya Rosalie went to the province to vote and be with her family last May. She was not supposed to come back anymore as she only extended her stay with us for another year. I promised a “big bonus” so that she would consider coming back. And she did, just last week. *sigh of relief*

Ask anyone, and they would tell you how difficult it is to find a good yaya nowadays. It’s almost close to impossible to find even any kind of yaya or househelp at all. This is the usual pantry conversation among working moms: Do you know where I could find a good yaya? Mine just left a few days ago! 

But with the advent of global opportunities, more people want to work abroad instead of looking for employment in Manila households. So the scarcity of yayas increase annually, and even among friends, recommendations come far and between.


So here’s my survival guide to making it yaya-less for the interim period (until you find a new one):

1. Ask help from Extended Family 

If you have relatives with a bit of free time in their hands, consider asking their help to watch the kids while you are at work. Lolos and Lolas would be thrilled to spend time with their apos. 

2. Delegate, delegate, delegate

Learn to say no for work commitments. If you are a team leader, delegate tasks to committee members so you can have some time to focus on mommy duties. 

3. Plan the week ahead

Work around the household and work tasks. Know when you have free time to “work in advance”— cooking meals for the week, submitting deadlines a night earlier when the baby’s asleep, follow up calls during traffic. These would free up time that you need to spend time with your baby sans yaya.

4. Ask family and friends for recommendations

I always keep a mommy circle, in and out of work, where I can ask all the questions I have without qualms or worries. It is with these group (my “yaya sisterhood”) that I also ask about their experiences without yayas and how they deal with those situations. Sometimes it pays to learn about best case practices that may also be applicable at home.

For some, yayas may go and not come back. No time to be frustrated or disappointed though. In these cases, best to be ready with Plan B– to look for possible replacement already so you can move on and start training again. 

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Are Women Using Work to Escape a Chaotic Home?

“The hours are long but the coffee is hot, the routine reassuring, the banter comforting. Maybe a mother could come to prefer her life at work.” ~ Mary Otto

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Sometimes, this is true for me. I blame economics, gender equality, and the terrible two’s. I wish I can lessen the guilt, but it does not take away the truth from the reality. I need my sanity break, and yes, it comes in the form of work. Am I more career woman than mother? Does that make me a bad mother? After a long day in the office, I just shrug off the evil thoughts, and still go back home, to my family.

Read moreĀ here.