“Working mothers who are the breadwinners are 3x more likely than fathers to bear the mental load.” ~ Bright Horizons Family Solutions
Here is an interesting article from Business Wire on Working Mothers. According to a latest study, women who are primary breadwinners are doing more at home than their male counterparts and even more than working mothers who are not providing their family’s primary financial support. Mothers with jobs that provide their family’s major source of income are also two and three times more likely to be managing the household and children’s schedules than breadwinning fathers, and more than 30 percent more likely than other working mothers to be taking care of everything from family finances to organizing family vacations.
Overburdened working mothers and modern husbands need an effective support system to fulfill their new dual, even multiple roles. By providing supports to working women, they can help open up mindshare that can contribute even more to the workplace. And by creating environments where men are encouraged and valued for taking advantage of work/life supports as well, workplaces can start to catch up with the culture this generation of working families demands.
Full article here.
“I try to see interviewing as performance art, and just take it as it comes.” ~ Liz Phair
A friend was looking for a possible candidate to be interviewed on radio for a feature on Working Moms, so I grabbed the opportunity with a resounding YES! I’ve dreamed of being interviewed on air, and what better way to fulfill this dream than by talking about my passions and life as a working mother.
I was nervous leading up to interview day. I wasn’t sure if I was “good enough” resource material to be interviewed. I talked to my husband about my concerns, and he reassured me to just speak from the heart, and everything will follow. I agreed, but made him promise to tell no one (except a handful of close friends), so I wouldn’t have to deal with meeting certain expectations, and I can freely share anecdotes without offending anyone.
My husband drove me to the station early, and we chatted a bit with another interviewee. There were three of us working moms to go on board that day, and it helped to get that rapport started early so we would all be more comfortable with each other during the actual show.
The program started around 10:30am, and we all got a chance to tell our stories as working mothers. I told them about the juggling act, knowing your priorities, and setting up support systems, both at work and at home, that you can rely on when things get tough. I spoke about Breastfeeding as an advocacy, since August was Breastfeeding Month, and how this helped nurture bonds between moms and babies, and also cultivate emotional intelligence early on. It was empowering and exhilarating to speak about our lives as working mothers, and I hope I was able to reach out and tell others that this choice, to work and be a mother at the same time, is not easy… but believe, ask help, and pray. It can be done.
I’m thankful for my family’s support, not just for this interview, but in taking care of Sofie as well. So I dedicate this interview to them, my rock and support system. Without them, I wouldn’t have believed that it could be done. So cheers to all working moms, and to all the families behind their success!
“Once you become a parent, it always seems like there is “so much to do, so little time.”
This goes for all moms — whether you stay at home fulltime, work outside the home fulltime or part-time, or work at home. Suddenly, “busy” cannot even begin to describe how your day is.”
Sharing an article online, on productivity tips for busy and productive moms.
Full article here.
“Finding the real joy of Christmas comes not in the hurrying and the scurrying to get more done, nor is it found in the purchasing of gifts. We find real joy when we make the Savior the focus of the season” ~ Thomas S. Monson
When September hits, Christmas starts in the Philippines. Jose Mari Chan’s classic Christmas melodies dominate mall music as shoppers scramble for gifts during the weekly midnight sales.
For me, Ber months are even crazier… sales targets are pushed for the last quarter, and balikbayans and old friends are squeezing in reunions for all weekends till January. It’s fun and hectic, and wills all your energy to make it to every meeting and gathering.
It’s only October now, but I’m already feeling the pressure. Our anniversary celebration coincides with a weekend workshop, and I have to juggle time with family and prep meetings with speakers. It’s nothing new, but everything seems to be on a bigger scale during Ber months.
Keeping positive… even with the scheduling stress, I’m still grateful for the work that is never boring, and the family and friends’ never ending support. And of course, celebrating the true Reason for the Season. Here’s to enjoying and surviving the Ber Months!
As an early millennial, I would recognize some wisdom to this new theory. The blend concept applies to more focus on outputs rather than hours spent, quality over quantity.
When technology connects everything, work hours and personal time clear delineations disappear as one big gray area. It doesn’t matter how much time you put in, but how much you are able to give at each aspect of your life. And in the modern setting where technology forces one to multitask, this work-life blend would be perfect for millennial moms who juggle different hats across a 24-hour time frame.
Read more about millennials and Work-Life Blend in this article.
“There is a kind of magicness about going far away and then coming back all changed.” ~ Kate Douglas Wiggin
I’m on my last leg from an assignment in Eastern Europe to attend and assist delegates in a conference. Before that, I came from another weeklong midyear conference, out of town, from which I was the lead organizer for 500 delegates. Two weeks away from my family to fulfill my duties for work.
It’s been difficult both physically and emotionally to be away for so long. Before when I was single, I would relish the thought of traveling to new places. I’ve always wanted to visit different destinations since I was a little girl, and my work has given me opportunities to see beautiful places in my country and around the world. Travel has always been a passion and a blessing.
But having my husband and my daughter changed my priorities. If I can limit my trips now, I would gladly take that option. Otherwise, a lot of planning and preparation ensues. As a working mom, I not only have to ensure that every detail of the trip itinerary is complete, but also stock up on supplies for the household and endorse childcare to my family.
Here are some tips when a working mom goes away on a trip:
1. Make a Laundry List.
It helps to list down your daily routine so you can go it over with your husband, yaya or the Lolo/Lola on the things needed to be done and prepared everyday. This is what you do when your child wakes up, eats breakfast at this time, goes to her nap, playtime and bedtime routine. Schedules can be pinned to the ref or anywhere that can be easily seen, so the child’s routine will not be disrupted even while you’re away.
At work, make sure to sit down with your superior to let him know of your trip details and scheduled return to work. Update him with your tasks and things to be settled so there are no loose ends before you leave.
2. Accomplish in Advance.
Prepping is very vital prior to your trip. Plan the menu and the meal plan for the week. If you can, cook the food the weekend prior and assign days for the week for each viand. Stock up on groceries (with a little extra for emergencies). Leave some money with someone you trust in case of an emergency purchase. List down names and contacts of your pediatrician, teacher and nearby baranggay/ police station.
Meetings can be set prior to your trip so you can settle concerns with customers without worries. Submit all deliverables in advance and assure clients that they can still contact your assistant or reliever while you’re out.
3. Go online.
You don’t have to spend so much to call and check up on home. While away, I use different tools to keep in touch: Viber, Skype, FB messenger. Before I left home, I tested all the apps on my device and my husband’s and brother’s to make sure they’re working. We aligned time zones too so we know which is the best time to call each other. Now I’m learning to use WorldSim too so I can call home and work for a minimal rate.
In the office, I’ve turned also my auto-reply with my email address (not mobile phone) so customers and suppliers can still reach me for urgent matters.
I am grateful for the support system I have right now–my spouse and my parents, along with yayas and household help–that have allowed me to take on trip-related responsibilities while they take care of the home front. I’m fortunate as well to have workmates who are willing to carry some workload while I’m gone. Without them, the delicate work-life-travel balance will not be possible. So, while it’s expensive, I make sure to buy everyone little tokens of appreciation from my trip. Goodwill always goes a long way.
And while you’re at it, enjoy the trip! Let go of the guilt and take in the scenery. Each adventure truly changes you, and you leave with new life lessons.
Thankful and excited to finally go home!