“The struggle of man against power is the struggle of memory against forgetting.” ~ Milan Kundera

Have you ever had an episode where you went to a room to get something, but when you go there, you completely forgot what you wanted to look for?

Or in a rush to go to the office, you forgot your laptop as soon as you stepped out of the parking lot, and had to go home again just to get it?

I’m guilty of all of these. Most of the time. 

Sometimes it’s funny, but it can get really frustrating. Especially when my forgetfulness takes up extra time to backtrack. Entering motherhood has given me more tasks, activities and to-do’s to remember than before. 

But I’ve learned how to manage though. Over the years, I’ve enlisted help from reminders and people to help me not be so forgetful:

  • I have extra charging cords, baby wipes, toiletries, clothes in the car trunk and in the office. Just in case I forget to bring them from home.
  • I have lists and reminders and alarms of my schedules in my phone and my email. Lists are actually therapeutic.
  • I align tasks with my husband, so we can share reminders with each other. I ask him sometimes to remind me about grocery lists, or passing by the gas station, and I do the same from him.
  • If there’s a trip, it helps to prepare things to bring the night before. We put these in the car or near the door, so we won’t forget anything the next morning when we’re moving in a rush.

Lately, scientists have researched about this particular state of forgetfulness for mothers, and clinical tests show that this may be the real deal. Read more about mumnesia here.


BER Months are Here!

“Finding the real joy of Christmas comes not in the hurrying and the scurrying to get more done, nor is it found in the purchasing of gifts. We find real joy when we make the Savior the focus of the season” ~ Thomas S. Monson

When September hits, Christmas starts in the Philippines. Jose Mari Chan’s classic Christmas melodies dominate mall music as shoppers scramble for gifts during the weekly midnight sales.

For me, Ber months are even crazier… sales targets are pushed for the last quarter, and balikbayans and old friends are squeezing in reunions for all weekends till January. It’s fun and hectic, and wills all your energy to make it to every meeting and gathering.

It’s only October now, but I’m already feeling the pressure. Our anniversary celebration coincides with a weekend workshop, and I have to juggle time with family and prep meetings with speakers. It’s nothing new, but everything seems to be on a bigger scale during Ber months. 

Keeping positive… even with the scheduling stress, I’m still grateful for the work that is never boring, and the family and friends’ never ending support. And of course, celebrating the true Reason for the Season. Here’s to enjoying and surviving the Ber Months!