Boodle Fight

“People who love to eat are always the best people.” – Julia Child

How to make Fathers’ Day special? Create a special, memorable lunch—a.k.a.  Boodle Fest! Perfect for the hubby and the grandpa who wants a simple celebration at home.

On the Menu: fried fish (tilapia), ensalada (mangoes, tomatoes, eggplant and bagoong), liempo, BBQ, menudo, shrimp and rice over banana leaves, enjoyed with our bare hands.

Yummmm! Happy Fathers’ Day!

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The Ugly Truth

Here’s an interesting take on the inner struggles of working moms. You want the ugly truth? Yes we do feel like a fraud sometimes for giving half hearted efforts to our work deadlines and children’s schooling. But how can we juggle all that is demanded of us when society expects us to work as if we don’t have children and raise a child as if we don’t have work?


Sometimes all we want is for someone to say: “You’re not alone. It’s not your fault. And it doesn’t have to be this way.”

Sick Leave

“Life is difficult for everyone; everyone has bad days. Everyone has trouble in their life, because it doesn’t matter how rich you are: Sickness and trouble and worry and love, these things will mess with you at every level of life.” ~ Domhnall Gleeson

When I was single, I rarely had sick leaves. I still came to the office when I had fever or just sent some emails then had an early off for really bad flus. 


These days, when my daughter is sick, I have to leave everything behind (or at least compose a work around) so I can take a sick leave for her. Just like today. Cascades, presentations have to be postponed and delegated to the team. I have to exchange cars with my husband all the way to North Edsa because mine is coding for the day. A lot of sacrifices and juggling around, but I don’t complain. This is my choice, to prioritize my daughter and my family. Work comes second. I’m just thankful that my work allows me to send my output in emails and I have an understanding boss and dependable team.

For now, I’ll enjoy lunch with the husband and more quality time to take care of and be with my daughter. Thankful for the blessing of family and of work. 

The Four Burners Theory

Came across The Four Burners Theory where in our lives are sectioned into 4 burners: family, friends, health and career.


The theory says that in order to be successful, you have to cut off one of your burners, and in order to be really successful, you have to cut out two.

Interesting read on work-life balance, and The downside of being mediocre at all aspects or successful but not balanced on all burners. I think the working mom in me would want to juggle all four, and merely recognize that some burners would shine brighter and need more attention than the rest at specific times.

Yaya Sisterhood

“When you’re babysitting a kid, all you’re seeing is a version of them, a small dosage.” ~ J. B. Smoove

One of the reasons why I was not able to update this blog was because I became yaya-less for a month. Yaya Rosalie went to the province to vote and be with her family last May. She was not supposed to come back anymore as she only extended her stay with us for another year. I promised a “big bonus” so that she would consider coming back. And she did, just last week. *sigh of relief*

Ask anyone, and they would tell you how difficult it is to find a good yaya nowadays. It’s almost close to impossible to find even any kind of yaya or househelp at all. This is the usual pantry conversation among working moms: Do you know where I could find a good yaya? Mine just left a few days ago! 

But with the advent of global opportunities, more people want to work abroad instead of looking for employment in Manila households. So the scarcity of yayas increase annually, and even among friends, recommendations come far and between.


So here’s my survival guide to making it yaya-less for the interim period (until you find a new one):

1. Ask help from Extended Family 

If you have relatives with a bit of free time in their hands, consider asking their help to watch the kids while you are at work. Lolos and Lolas would be thrilled to spend time with their apos. 

2. Delegate, delegate, delegate

Learn to say no for work commitments. If you are a team leader, delegate tasks to committee members so you can have some time to focus on mommy duties. 

3. Plan the week ahead

Work around the household and work tasks. Know when you have free time to “work in advance”— cooking meals for the week, submitting deadlines a night earlier when the baby’s asleep, follow up calls during traffic. These would free up time that you need to spend time with your baby sans yaya.

4. Ask family and friends for recommendations

I always keep a mommy circle, in and out of work, where I can ask all the questions I have without qualms or worries. It is with these group (my “yaya sisterhood”) that I also ask about their experiences without yayas and how they deal with those situations. Sometimes it pays to learn about best case practices that may also be applicable at home.

For some, yayas may go and not come back. No time to be frustrated or disappointed though. In these cases, best to be ready with Plan B– to look for possible replacement already so you can move on and start training again. 

Hiatus

“Every person needs to take one day away. A day in which one consciously separates the past from the future. Jobs, family, employers, and friends can exist one day without any one of us, and if our egos permit us to confess, they could exist eternally in our absence. Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us. “~ Maya Angelou
Hello again.

Back from my break, and I begin to write again. I needed the break to focus and fulfill my duties at home and at work. So much has happened over the past months that I forgot to write about them. Ups and downs, jubilations and confrontations, victories and sacrifices. 

I did not write not because I didn’t have the time. But because I lacked the will to write. And now I discover that I need that extra will power, that extra push, to write down all that I can. 

Because the lessons and life experiences are journeys worth sharing with similar minds and even strangers. And Because I want to remember the writer I once was, before I became a career woman and a wife and a mother.

And so here I am again. And now I write anew.